NBTM & #Giveaway: Shelter from Our Secrets, Silence, and Shame by Rebecca L. Brown, MSW, RSW

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As a mental health clinician, Rebecca Brown has been a safe place for many to seek shelter from their secrets, silence and shame. Inspired to finally slow down, stop running from herself and share her own story, she found ways to seek and savour her own shelter.

Rebecca's personal journey takes us through sadness, tragedy, self-sabotage, the impossible pursuit of perfection, distorted thinking and eating, engaging with her shadow self, divorce, and numbing with alcohol, all in an attempt to avoid the story needing to be shared.

Dispelling the limiting beliefs we hold about ourselves can unlock our limitless potential to reach goals we never dared to dream. From the Boston Marathon to working with horses, Rebecca sets out to prove to herself that anything is possible when you don't listen to the negative stories you tell yourself.

Everyone has a story. We become who we are because of what has happened to us, and because of the stories we tell ourselves. But do our stories continue to serve us well, or keep us stuck? Are our stories fact or fiction? Is it time to rewrite the versions we have been telling ourselves?

Shelter provides strategies to help reframe the thinking patterns we have developed, and offers tools to recognize when we are suffering from our own thoughts, feelings and actions. Resilience-building techniques are woven through the pages, and encouragement for the lifelong journey of collecting moments of awe and happiness.

Seeking and reading Shelter is a gift of self-compassion and self-discovery. Rebecca's hope is that it will be read with a highlighter in hand, pages folded down, re-read, recommended to a friend, and used as a guide to start sharing our own stories with those we love.

We may not have written our beginnings, but we have the ability to write every word from this point forward and just imagine where our stories can take us when we are free of secrets, silence and shame.

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Lives become divided into “before the accident” and “after the accident.”

This is where people learn that life is not fair.

But it doesn’t mean that life can’t be rich, rewarding, and happy again.

But it takes time, courage, pain, and most of all, resilience.

How do I know this?

Because I’ve lived it myself.

I watched as the first love of my life broke his neck.

I was not quite sixteen; he was eighteen.

Kids in the country do crazy things.

Like swimming in abandoned gravel pits and quarries.

Tailgates of pickup trucks make great diving boards.

At almost sixteen, I didn’t know how fragile life was.

I didn’t know how strong love could be.

I didn’t know how resilient the human spirit can be.

I didn’t know that this tragedy would change the trajectory of my life.

I spent my sixteenth birthday in the hospital Intensive Care Unit with him.

It was not sweet.

It was sad, and I was scared.

It was the only place I wanted to be.

He was paralyzed from the chest down.

He had holes drilled into his skull connected to metal pins and rods, called a “Halo” traction, to stabilize his fractured C4-5 vertebrae, which had been snapped, his spinal cord severed.

He was hooked up to a ventilator because his lungs had collapsed when he had sunk to the bottom of the gravel pit before our friends realized something was wrong and he hadn’t surfaced.

He had a breathing tube inserted into a hole in his throat.

He could only move his eyes.

I had to stand on tiptoes and lean over the rails of the hospital bed so he could see me.

And every time he saw me, he cried.

He couldn’t talk because the tube he was breathing through didn’t let sound come from his vocal cords.

So I did all the talking.

Telling him how much I loved him.

How much his friends loved him and were rooting for him.

Not many people were allowed in to see him, so I became the spokesperson for them.

When I ran out of words, I read to him.

I stroked his arm, held his hand.

Until I remembered that he couldn’t feel his hands; he would never again hold my hand back.

I stroked the side of his face, his head, ran my fingers through his hair.

He could feel this, and it comforted him when he was sad, scared, or angry.

I learned that love is powerful medicine.

As he healed, the halo traction and breathing tube were removed, and he was transferred from the ICU to a rehabilitation ward for months of physical therapy. He learned how to sit in a wheelchair.

I learned how to change catheter bags and how to be an adult before I was one.

What do you love most about self-publishing?

I love the ability to stay true to the vision I had for my book. But I never could have put the entire book together on my own, as a first-time author. I definitely loved the hybrid version of self-publishing which gave me the professional support, editing, design and marketing expertise to bring it all together into a beautiful and professional looking book.

What’s the worst part of self-publishing?

It was important to research several different self-publishing and hybrid self-publishing firms. As a Canadian, I chose a Canadian firm, but I held them to the same test I did with the larger US self-publishing firms, and I am happy with my decision.

How has your impression of self-publishing changed?

I had no idea what was involved in publishing an entire book project. I thought writing the content was the end of my work, but I soon came to realize that I was actually the producer from beginning to end, and it is a lot of work, collaboration, and ultimately my decisions on every detail.

Would you recommend self-publishing to other authors?

Yes, I have recommended a hybrid self-publishing process to many people who have asked me how I published my book.

What will the self-publishing industry look like in ten years?

I believe that self-publishing industry is going to be huge and it is an incredible opportunity for many talented and gifted people to get their work out to the world.

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REBECCA BROWN is a clinical social worker with over 35 years in practice ranging from medical social work, childhood trauma, vicarious trauma for first responders, international psychological first aid, and Equine Assisted Therapy. She is honoured to hold a faculty appointment with the Department of Family Medicine at Western University in London, Ontario. She teaches extensively on the topics of trauma and resilience and has delivered keynote presentations throughout North America. She shares her life and career with her husband, a family physician and trailblazer in the field of Lifestyle Medicine. Together they live and work on the shores of the Great Lake Huron, where they seek and share shelter with their six adult children, four grandchildren, extended family and friends, two dogs, two cats and one horse.

Connect with Rebecca L. Brown

WEBSITE https://rebeccabrown.ca/

INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/rebeccabrown.ca/

GOODREADS https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/22150115.Rebecca_L_Brown

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